Lifestyle Definitions and Terms Used In Alternate Lifestyles

A

AC/DC – Meaning an individual who is bi-sexual.

B

B & D – Bondage and discipline.

Back Door – The anal area; the gluteus maximus/minimus

BDSM - Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism

BI or Bisexual - A person that enjoys sex with both males and females.

Bi-curious – Having thoughts, or wanting to explore with a member of the same sex. Limited Bisexual experience.

Bondage – When an individual is sexually aroused when being restrained or is subject to corrective treatment by another. (B & D)

C

CD - Cross Dresser - Person who sometimes wears clothing associated with the opposite sex.

Couple - Two people who live together or are in a romantic relationship.

CPL – Couple

Closed swinging – This is where partners have sexual intercourse with others in separate rooms.

Cunnilingus - Oral stimulation of the vagina/clitoris

D

DD or DD Free - Clean, disease and drug free.

Discipline – These are disciplinary actions which arouse the sexual desires. It can range from mild spankings to painful beatings.(B & D)

DP – Double Penetration. When a female is being penetrated both vaginally and rectally by two men or one man and a toy.

E

Entertain or Can Entertain- The person or couple using this term is able to have lifestyle guests in their home.

Exhibitionism / Exhibitionist – The act of exhibiting sexual acts in a public place, or in private with others watching./A person who enjoys exhibiting sexual acts in front of others or in public.

F

F - Female

Fellatios - Oral stimulation of the penis

Fetish – Sexual arousal through the use of objects or affection to parts of the body, such as fingers, feet, leather, and etc.

French – The act of using one's tongue to kiss or perform oral sex.

Full Swap - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that
includes anything up to AND including intercourse.

G

Gay - Homosexual. A person that prefers to have sex or share a romantic relationship with another of the same sex.

Greek – A word often used for anal intercourse.

H

Hedonist – An individual or one who lives only for pleasure.

Heterosexual - One who enjoys and has sex with only the opposite

sex.

Homosexual - One who enjoys and has sex with only the same sex.

Hung - One with a large penis

HWP - Height/Weight Proportionate. Someone that is not overweight

or underweight.

I

ISO - In Search Of

J

K

L

Lesbian - Gay women.

LTR - Long Term Relationship Lifestyle - Refers to the idea that "sex with others" is a way of life.

M

M - Male

MBC - Married Black Couple

MBiC - Married Bi Couple

MWC - Married White Couple

MIR - Married Interracial Couple.

Meet & Greet (M&G) - A physical location where couples can meet each other face to face. Usually involves music, food, and dancing.

N

NSA - No Strings Attached or Not interested in a long term relationship.

O

Off Premise - Events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party. If members wish to get together sexually they either go to a hotel, home, or elsewhere for pleasure.

On Premise - Events usually held at a private home or a private club. Sexual activities are allowed in designated areas or bedrooms. There are also safe rooms where sexual activities are not allowed to take place.

Open swinging – This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed.

P

Parties – Events consisting of group swinging with more than one couple. This is not to be mixed up with orgies.

Q

R

Roman - Orgies. This is where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one.

S

S&M or SM - Sadism/Masochism

Same Room - Where all parties enjoy encounters with others in the presence of one another, usually done in the same bed.

SBF - Single Black Female

SBiF - Single Bi Female

SBiM - Single Bi Male

SBM - Single Black Male

SGL - Single

Separate Rooms - When a couple play with others in seperate rooms only.

Social – Get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a restaurant, or dance hall. Often followed by a party.

Soft Swing/Swingers - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with
others that includes anything up to but not including intercourse.

STR8 or STR or Straight - Straight, a Heterosexual person.


Swap or Swapping – The exchanging of partners by two couples.

SWF - Single White Female

Swinger – A person who practices non-monogamous sexual activity.

Swinging – This is where two or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own.

Swinger Lifestyle - This is a lifestyle where a couple or individual enter into for the purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual activities with a partner or partners other than their own, and have adapted this to a way they live.

T

Theme Party - This is where a party host will suggest the dress code for the party or event. Usually this is not required and only an idea or suggestion of what others will be wearing to the party. Sometimes prizes are awarded depending on the host. Being creative and sexy is a huge plus in this area.

U

Unicorn - Slang for a single, generally bi-sexual female that participates
in the lifestyle. Referred to as a "unicorn" because, just like a unicorn, they are so rare.

V

Vanilla - Those who are not considered to be in the lifestle.

Versatile - Bisexual

W

Water Sports – This is a form of sexual stimulation where urination is part of sexual play.

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If you think we have missed something please feel free so that we can get it added to the list. We can't possibly think of every term there is out there.